Roger 2,
Well the first step is admitting you are powerless over alcohol and that your life has become unmanageable... It's the only step out of 12 that we have to get perfect.
This site is a good first step, but I would highly recommend going to an A.A. meeting, it is the best thing I have ever done. Do not worry about being judged or being accepted, just go and listen, I'm sure that, like me, you will hear your story.
I was alone, isolated and hated myself, now I am not alone, have the best friends I have made in my lifetime and I no longer hate myself. I'm proud to be an alcoholic in recovery and you can be too!
Good luck,
John