Originally Posted by
NeedHelp81 
When someone starts drinking at 14 and has been doing this for 13 years, I'd say he stumbled upon it. At 14 you think you're just partying when really you're developing a lifelong hurdle for yourself.
I "stumbled upon" sexual abuse when I was eleven and somehow managed to grow up and get help for it. But believe that if you want -- as long as you recognize that you're making excuses for him.
NeedHelp, if this is the life you want then live it. You don't need anyone else's permission or anyone's else's criticism.
If at any point you decide you deserve better than this situation, you'll know it, and you'll act on it, and not a moment before. It's all part of your learning curve. Just protect your future self from the things you think you're so sure about. There's nothing romantic about herpes, chlamydia or HIV when your boyfriend's long since drunk himself into an early grave.
Trust me on that.
Good luck.