Originally Posted by
NeedHelp81 
When someone starts drinking at 14 and has been doing this for 13 years, I'd say he stumbled upon it. At 14 you think you're just partying when really you're developing a lifelong hurdle for yourself.
He hasn't stumbled into anything. At any time during the past 13 years he could have decided to stop his behavior. It takes an affirmative choice each time he decides to take a drink. Just as it is an affirmative choice each time you decide to let him use you for sex, however you want to put it in your own mind. Its a choice. Perhaps a valid one for you. But a choice each time for you. A choice each time for him.