I think it's disrespectful for a man's only interactions with me to be a 'fly by." I don't want to be someone's booty call. I'm much more than that. Alanon, SR, and therapy have helped many folks on this forum realize that they deserve much more than that from a partner and much more than that out of life.
Have you tried Alanon? If not, you might want to give it a try.