I know a couple of people where I work who just irritate the crap out of me. Not just minor irritation, but the kind that gets me red in the face at even just hearing their voice. I always thought they just had a personality that rubbed me the wrong way. Since I've learned about my own ACOA and codependent issues, I have started to recognize in them what appears to be some of the same traits. Now I find myself wondering if these two individuals are living with an alcoholic spouse, or had a childhood with an alcoholic. It seems the traits that bug me the most in them are the ones I denied in myself for a long time. Whoda thought?
L