Well I ended up just saying "No, I love you, I miss you, and you are very important to me, but I do not want to be your second choice at the end of the weekend. I thought we would be living together, maybe engaged by now. Not communicating by text and seeing one another 1 or 2 times per week."
I've said "I don't want" this or that in the past, and then just went along accepting it because nothing changed (not even the empty promises from her assuring me it would be different). This time I choose carefully, a small time period and stood (will stand) my ground. "Nothing changes, if nothing changes".