Heya crazylady--
I hope you're leaving money around that YOU can afford to leave around! You don't want to be controlling but you also don't want to put YOURSELF in harm's way by not protecting yourself financially. That's giving away power.
Sounds pretty serious, what you're dealing with. And you're living in Europe and trying to write!! What a marvelous experience! Can you stay focused on your original plan and keep to your writing schedule?? I know, it is so hard to have the discipline and detachment while his drinking is stirring up all the chaos that drinking stirs up...sending you prayers for strength!! Take care of yourself!
Peace,
B.