Thank you for all your replies. Right now I am just sitting crying reading all of them and really appreciate you for taking the time to show you care - it makes you feel so alone. I am planning to go to a nar-anon meeting on Saturday and I know that will be hard. I'm just taking time to think about what to do. How did you get your AD/AS out of the house - did you set a date - did you just tell them to leave - just some ideas about how some of you did it because that is the hardest part for me. I read the post about Letting them Fall and I think it is probably so true but hard to do.