Dear Boggled. Welcome to SR. You have come to a good place & unfortunately there are many mothers who come here. Recovery can be a very long process. If it was up to us it would be easy, but they have to want to be clean & sober.
My son is 41 & has been addicted to coke since his early 20's. He has had alot of help & that has just kept him addicted longer. My parents have enabled him long after we knew better. There is a post ( they are called stickeys ) on the top of the first page titled If " You Love Me Let Me Go ", please read it. That just about explains everything. I have noticed the kids who recover the quickest have parents that are not afraid to lay down the law and let them go.
Please keep coming back. There will be many people along that will have some really good things to say.