chickenlady,
It must be hard to try hard to change your life, and have someone in your life who isn't. My sister was a heroin addict who went through detox/rehab four times, but each time she came home, she came home to her still-addicted, not-seeking-help husband. Not to say that he is responsible for her addiction -- only she is -- but I know it must be extremely hard to change a behavior when that behavior is all over your house all day and night.
You are focused on your own sobriety, which is the way it should be. You'll have to decide at some point whether you want to live with another alcoholic or not -- whether it serves you (in your search for a better life) or whether it gets in your way -- and make a choice. It may save your life to get away from him, but it's no guarantee. At the very least, though, you would be saving your kids from an alcoholic male role model.
Are you involved in AA? Any sort of ACoA counseling? Do you have help of any kind staying sober and setting a good example for your kids from this point on? If this marriage threatens to help drag you back down into drunkenness and mayhem.....it's worth considering whether you want to let it.
Good luck