Welcome, Black Sheep. There's a lot of really good information here on the site... take a cruise around and read some of the "stickies" at the top. You'll learn about many of us who have had some really difficult and scary lives because of the addicts and alcoholics in our lives.
It helped me a LOT to go to face to face Al Anon meetings. Are there any meetings in your area? Meetings helped me to understand what was and was not my responsibility, what problems were mine to solve and what ones I needed to stay out of. I learned the 3 C's - I didn't cause it, I can't control it and I can't cure it. I learned that I could love someone to death if I didn't allow that person to experience his own consequences.
We're glad you're here! I hope to learn more about you soon.
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