TwoofHearts,
Wishing you luck with this. I know that I have developed a real aversion to lying, and could no longer be with someone who lied because of it. I can say with complete honesty that I'd rather live alone. And I can also honestly say that I would quickly lose my affection, respect, and connection with someone who was deceptive...I know this about myself. So I'm afraid I can't offer you much help in "not taking it personally." It IS personal to me, and not something I am willing to live with; life's too short, and there are too many fine potential partners out there to stick with one who won't be open. Hoping you find the right path for YOU.
GL