It's called "teaching". Whether by a therapist, a sponsor, or a recovery group. Just like teaching children, the _good_ teacher is the one that modifies the lesson to meet the needs of the pupil. Some students know how to walk, and need to learn how to run. Others are just learning to crawl, and just need a little encouragement until they are ready to take the first step. Others are scared, and just need to watch for awhile.
The teacher that uses the _same_ approach for all students is only going to help a few, and lose the rest.
A public forum has some additional challenges to the teaching concept. We know _very little_ about a poster when they first appear. They may say "it's my spouse", because they have not yet learned that their parents have it as well, and their child. The approach you take with a co-dependent that has been trying to control a spouse for 30 years is the complete opposite to what you do with a battered spouse that was raped as a child.
That's why SR is Moderated; so we can provide the kind of individualized approach that is needed by the large numbers of people that arrive each day. Otherwise, a few well-meaning folks would cause a lot of harm to a lot of people while helping only the few that happened to match their limited experience. That's why the Mods are made up folks with _lots_ of experience, as well as professional background as teachers, counselors and such.
Mike
Moderator, SoberRecovery