When I came here, I needed both: Someone to say, "You don't have to take this, stop now, run!" and someone to say with a hug, "Here's what I did...and it worked for me....you might try it some time."
A teacher of mine has a good philosophy of life. He says, "Ask for what you need, and offer what you can." On the days when SR is offering equal parts of tough love and loving detachment, it's a miracle to behold.