Give love..... the brutal honesty thing would be like a God send for me, but quite honestly, I do wonder if it would just make it even more crazy for me? It would be like ODing in codependency. I'm glad it worked for you though.
Maybe it's just that I've come to the realization I literally have no control over him???? He is by nature a secretive person.... he doesn't have ill intent about it, it's just that he tends to be more so on the private side. Which can also drive me into a tail spin as well. I learned that all dark comes to light.... and it does..... so that is what has helped me.