Originally Posted by
toooldfratguy 
I guess I need to prove to myself first that I can do this before I advertise it to her...she did say I'd betrayed her trust many times by saying I wasn't going to get sloppy (and then of course I did), so I don't want to announce i'm recovering when I just might relapse again.
Thank you all for your responses. It has given me good food for thought (God I think about this so much!).
TooOld – You’re getting where I’m at. I’ve been making slow but good progress without including my wife. I’m scared if I do that now, it will accelerate the recovery wagon to a point that if I fall off I will cause so much extra damage.