Originally Posted by
FormerDoormat 
Is it just me, or does anyone else think the above statement that appears to encourage partners of addicts to stay for the long-haul is victim-speak?
I can't imagine that my HP will offer me a special place in heaven because I chose to remain a life-long victim of someone else's abuse. I think it's much more likely that my HP would be pleased that I grew strong and independent and acquired enough self-love to demand much more out of a relationship than to settle for life with an addict.
Yes, victim speak. Also offensive to assume that those who choose to leave did not do all they could/wanted to do to work on a marriage/relationship.
My HP does not hand out special places in heaven to those who choose to remain vicitms if they can help themselves. Nor does my HP think my live needs to be filled with misery to "prove" I am doing all I can to work on a marriage. My HP wants me to have the best life possible.