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:ghug2Encouraging words, thanks so much for replying and caring. I realise i am blessed to have my siblings and i suppose in a way i think i already have people who understand my situation. But i realise that they also have an unhealthy way of thinking because of how we have been brought up - not to trust, and not believe good things can happen to us. I read that that was one common trait shared in AcoAs. You mentioned that there was no deadline for Al-anon... but tell me is it a case of, the earlier the better?? i dont want to have irreversible issues by the time i want to start my own family!