SoBearish
Admitting to myself I was an alcoholic was the hardest thing I ever did.
ME? ALCOHOLIC?
I was intelligent, I was stubborn, I was resourceful, I was a good person with a good heart....
I spent a good part of my 15 years drinking denying the reality.
When I did finally acknowledge it, the weight that that lifted made it possible for me to finally beat this crap.
I had to get to an all day everyday drinking habit to admit it tho....
Have the conversation you need to. And you need to - no matter how unpleasant.
Explain that booze is just like the pot was.
You have a wife and a baby on the way SB - you can't really afford the kind of long study in debauchery I had. You already know the 'have a few' agreement is doomed to failure.
Think about this hard SB.....
and good luck
