I'm having a restless night wondering where my AH has got to, he wasn't home when I got in but he has been here. No note telling me where he is or even when he'll be back. I'm trying to ignore it but it's making me unsettled and feeling crap. Then read your post. It sounds as if we're married to the same man... Thank you. I'm not alone in trying to step back from the chaos - it's just that some times are harder than others! Time to do some reading and get myself back on track. Thank you Cassey.