He is a bully isn't he? Sounds just like my ex. Calling up everyone and basically intimidating them into submission, the actions of a control freak and bully IMO.
You should read the thread
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ml#post1835848
This is his way of keeping you under HIS control and making sure you have no one to tell the truth to. It is abusive. Please do not allow him to enforce this rule with you - IMHO it is way out of order!!!
If you have something you wish to say, you should never feel you should just keep your mouth shut. I did this for far too long and it drove me to insanity!
His nastiness when sober - this too happened to my exabf. After a while of continuous alcohol abuse, the personality is affected. So that even when not drinking, they still act out like drunk. it is aprogression of the disease, and what is known as ''dry drunk''
Lily xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx