Welcome!
Wow! And you have never been to a meeting? I am blown away by your realistic view of what is going on around you! I don't detect any denial or any inclination to take responsiblity for what they have done. It sounds to me like you calls 'em as you see's 'em.
Sure there is some anger but who wouldn't be angry!? We all get angry.
There is some great reading material out there, on this site, at meetings and even at the library to help you understand what is going on around you. And Al Anon meetings are easy to find if you are so inclined. Take what you like and leave the rest...it never hurts to really know who the enemy is.
Keep posting...I for one will be reading!
(((((HUGS)))))
Paula