Whew!
Am I glad this one worked out.
Mr. Nici, congrats on your recovery and accepting your g/f's need and desire for her own recovery.
My A s/o was the one who suggested Al-Anon for me as he committed himself to rehab not only to better himself, but to have a healthy relationship with me. His suggestion of Al-Anon was so that I can find some serenity in dealing with him, learn how to support him, not be a codie to his actions, and to also have a healthy relationship with him. He knows I found this forum, I told him about it. He doesn't know where it is, he doesn't have access to 'look it up', but he does respect my privacy (he knows how badly my internet privacy was invaded by an ex-h) and if he found me here or what I've written (he'd know it was because of him and about him), he'd be o.k....he's anonymous here as we all are. He'd be pleased I'm seeking the help I need and I'm pleased to see you've turned the corner and support your g/f's recovery.