Hi Unigirl,
I have been going to Alanon for 3 years. There are A LOT of recovering alcoholics who also benefit from Alanon. I used to see AA and Alanon as having black and white issues, but it's all gray. We can have some characteristics that fall under AA and some that fall under Alanon. One of my good friends is in both. It's about getting to the core and changing to healthy behaviors. That is my opinion anyway. I have also seen people go from Alanon to Love Addicts Anonymous. You will be welcome with loving arms. Our main speaker is from AA. It is advised to try 6 meetings to decide if Alanon is for you. You can be the judge if you think it will help you. Best wishes to you.