Hi unigirl, we have a slogan in Al-Anon:
"When anyone anywhere reaches out for help, let the hands of Al-Anon and Alateen always be there; and let it begin with me."
I've been attending Al-Anon for many years and we have all kinds of people in the meetings. Some live with active alcoholism, some with those in recovery, some who have lost someone to the disease and I have met many who did not grow up with the effects of active use--- but can trace it to a previous generation.
Al-Anon will help anyone who is willing to listen and learn and there is no judgement made about anyone who attends. It has helped me to unravel alot of disfunction in my life.
I highly recommend the program and hope you will try at least six meetings. If after that you find it's not for you (here comes another slogan) "We will gladly refund your misery."