Ann made a great point
"Recovery supports recovery".
I also think that respecting someone's internet privacy is very important in a healthy relationship.
As for anger issues, Spicoli had a ton of them. Some were due to the drinking, some were due to the fact that he needed anti-depressants. Now that I have seen him sober for an extended period of time, and taking the anti-depressants faithfully; I see a changed man. He no longer goes into a rage state about the slightest little thing.
Peace,
Gabe