Welcome to you...Advice..read all the flags on the top of this page...Read step one...I am powerless...you are powerless...for me this means I am powerless over the actions of another human being...You can't keep an addict out of his addiction, you can pity them but if you do too much of that, they will take you down with them...You cannot save them, you can save you...They have to save themselves....Nine years later, you can see that what you have been doing hasn't worked...Doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results just doesn't happen...They are addicted to drugs and us bailing them out of the messes...We are addicted to them in the name of LOVE....Love is not supposed to hurt us, cost us money, self respect, turn us into liars and make our friends and family worry about us...Love yourself...take care of yourself...Let your friend take care of himself, that is the best gift you can give to him...Marian