Originally Posted by
tkdan 
Even if someone says they lost everything they are lying. If they are saying it, they must be alive so they have not lost everything. Instead of telling someone that they are not through drinking and should go back out maybe they should just be told that until they accept that they are powerless over alcohol the program of AA will not work for them. It would be to the point and if they ended up dying due to their drinking at least it would not be because someone told them they needed to drink more.
I was also told by some people that I hadn't surrendered when in fact, I had. The day I surrendered well and truly in my heart, mind and soul, I actually
felt it. Surrendering is one of the most amazing feelings ever, it is such a relief. Anyway, following that day I had a good solid 8 days of joyful sobriety. Then 2 days where I didn't really do my spiritual program and pray/meditate/read in the mornings. Then boom... relapse.
It IS simple like you all say, but at the same time, a lot of work!