((Laketime))
I'm sorry to hear you are going through this.
In one of my previous posts I mentioned that I sometimes look for the "final straw" to give me a reason to cut all contact w/my 27 yr old AS. (Look for a reason so I don't have to do it all on my own, ya know what I mean.) Anyway . . . I always felt that "pregnancy" would be one of those reasons . . . if you've gotten yourself into that situation, you're responsible enough to (or need to be) to handle it. Thank God that never happened between AS and his exGF.
If you & Mrs. do not want to take on another child, adoption is another option.
p.s. I haven't found the "final straw" but am trying hard on my own to work the program. Thanks to my HP, everyone on SR, Alanon and Naranon.