Oh Laketime the grief is beyond belief. All I can say though is I am so disgusted with his behaviour I am just about past caring.
We would have cut him loose yrs ago, in fact we did but my parents who are now 88 kept enabling him. Don't enable your son if there is anything to learn from what I'm going through. The more my parents helped him the worse it got.
He broke up with the mother of his 2 children & her dad helped raise the boys. My AS's parental rights were severed in court.