Weren't we talking about shortcomings ???
Even the court system requires a person to make restitutions
for damages or harm done.
OK????
If I want to re-join society, then I must make amends.
I think where you two are getting crossed is ( getting to hate this word) semantics:
True, the results of step 8 and 9 are not about me, as far as the physical results go( restitution). But they are about me when it comes to me being able to look the world in the eye, then absolutely right, these steps are all about me!!!!! Like Garry said ( 'scuse me, "G" Money):
All the steps are about MY personal recovery and step work is a personal endeavor. I work the steps so that I can get better...not for anyone else.
So that I can get better, not for anyone else. Thought that was worth repeating.
#8 and #9 in nothing new or out of the ordinary that is required
of you to be a member of society. There's nothing dramatic about it.
Re-joining society is a key part of true emotional recovery. Addiction creates loneliness. Belonging again to society is a gage of our healing. This is not about being cattle and going with the crowd, we are talking about getting back to being productive members of society