Originally Posted by
aprylfool 
I'm not sure why I'm so willing to inconvenience myself at another's expense. Masochistic perhaps?
I think you'll find that when you find the answer to this question inside yourself, you will open up whole new possibilities for joy in your life. We all have reasons why we stay, most of them are bundled under the broad category of "but I love him/her". Just like you, it took me a long time to figure out why I was so willing to suffer -- what I was getting out of it. And when I finally got it, it was like that shift in The Wizard of Oz where the world goes from black and white to color. Whoa.