Originally Posted by
Barbara52 
But the object of boundaries is not to control the other person. They are only to spell out for you what you will and will not accept in your life. He is free to do as he pleases regardless of your boundaries and your choices. Yes, a consequence of his choses to continue drinking could be losing you in his life but that is the direct result of his choices. Moving to protect yourself in whatever way you would choose to do so is not done to control him, only to protect yourself or improve your life. Does that help?
So perhaps sitting down with sober him tonight would be helpful. To tell him what my boundaries are and that he's an adult and his choices are his own. If he chooses to behave in certain ways then he can then understand that he's crossed a boundary I have in place to protect me and in doing so has chosen a life without me in it.
Is that reasonable?