We have no losers here, only people who are trying to recover.
I was uncomfortable in social situations long before I began drinking, and now that I've stopped, I still don't feel comfortable. But, it's okay. It is what it is. One difference I've found since recovery, is that I am comfortable with myself and I am content to spend time by myself. I like going out in small groups - large groups make me very anxious. But, it's better than being drunk.