(((abundance)))
Sorry I'm late on this, but sounds like you got lots of good ES&H above. So, how are things now?
As far as lying, although most addicts DO lie, there are people who aren't addicts who do it, too. It is a HUGE thing to me...to be lied to, especially when I was the codie queen and would take you back no matter what you did! I told my XABF that if he was breathing, he was lying...even about stupid stuff.
Recovery isn't a straight road. Yes, I've stayed clean since I chose recovery, but it took a while longer for me to get past being irresponsible and comfortable with myself. I never did the lying bit, probably because I'm such a bad liar and can't keep up with what I told who. I'm sure if I had kept using, I would have developed the skill.
No matter what he does, keep focusing on you and the boys. Stick to your boundaries, even if it feels uncomfortable. I know, for me, taking care of myself was extremely uncomfortable for a while....it gets easier.
Hugs and prayers!
Amy