Excellent FD. It's something I agree with ARealLady on, though. We are raised to think about potential- in ourselves as well as in others. My dad was even talking about this with me recently- about how much potential STBXAH had- he's tall, good looking, extremely book smart, charming, etc. . . could have made partner at the law firm he started in out of school, but lost that job among others. I admit I get caught up in the past- what I thought he was. I have to remember who he is NOW.
I think I'm going to get the book too. I've said it before- I can't imagine being that woman in the al-anon meetings complaining about her 3rd or 4th AH!