yes, i am at my daughter's. and your're right, i do not have to charge her to take care of my granddaughter, i've been taking care of her since she was an infant. and actually, he was the one who said i should do it. she is not his as he says "blood" grandchild so he now is shifting the focus on that instead of his drinking. it hurts because he does love her, and now he is saying he didn't marry my family, just me. he had the nerve to tell me today that i have chosen my granddaughter over him. however, i recognize this pattern, as he did this in the past to me when my daughter was younger.
i just have to not give in to him when he starts crying to me, which appears to be his new tactic. perhaps he saw something in me today which he hasn't seen before. i'm so angry because i have let my life get to this point.