Inahurry, I think you're entirely correct! In so many ways, we're dealing with such childlike behavior on the side of the addicts in our lives, that for me, I find it way too easy to get down on the same level. I think what I'm trying to do more than anything else is to affirm that I have a right to a mature partner. I know what I really want is to have an adult partner, not a child. This attention-seeking behavior needs to be called out for exactly what it is.