By the way Starflier, slightly off topic, but I have found that my AP is often much much worse in his habits when I am particularly under stress - either at work or with the kids or something similar. I feel that it must somehow be connected, I don't know if it is attention seeking perhaps; it is at stressful times when it is particularly hard to stay cool and detached and not get het up - and that means he gets a reaction out of me.
I try to stay detached - but sometimes it's a bit of an internal battle! (doesn't do my digestion any good, so I obviously have more serenity to learn). xx