First off, your perspective as an alcoholic is welcome in many ways to me. A number of alcoholics psot in this board and I often find their comments helpful. So stick around.
Originally Posted by
TTOSBT 
Should I encourage him to talk or just focus on me and my recovery and being the best wife and mother I can be today and let him bring things up as needed?
As others have said his recovery is his to own. You've made the suggestion of AlAnon, its his decision whether to act or not. I have not been to any AlAnon meetings and have down quite well in my own recovery. Perhaps buy him a book or 2 that could be helpful. But again it will be his chocie whether to read or not.
It must be difficult trying to earn back his trust and rebuild your relationship. Perhaps couples counseling if he is open to it?