Diane, My daughter is doing well, but we both know that that could change in a heartbeat. I will only support my daughter if she stays where she is and she works a program and so far that is what she is doing. You could make the same apply for your son. I absolutely know that you can't force them into a program, but you can take that step away from him and let him fall by himself. Give him the clothes that he needs and anything else of his that is hanging around your house, tell him you love him and then let him make it or not by himself. The only thing that he needs from you is your love and he already has that. Things can change as the situation changes. Nothing is set in stone. I always said that I would not help my daughter financially, but I am because she is serious about recovery. That also could change. My boundaries are not to help her in her addiction but to support her in recovery. And to always let her know that she is loved. Hugs, Marle