((((rozied))))
IMHO It sounds like after the same old **it over and over, you're tired and want to step waaaaay back and see if he can do it on his own. If he's finally ready and has had enough he will get it together and try recovery. If not then it will be the same old same old again and again.
It's so hard to do this, but sometimes it's the only way. I found out the hard way, I think we all do. But when my daughter realized that I would not and could not save her, she started to try for herself. So far it has worked for both of us.
Take care of you and be very gentle with yourself.
:praying