Originally Posted by
painthorse60 
Pretty sure I've reached my limit this time. Not so much the lack of time or effort put into our marriage, but after 15 years of active addiction and going through rehab and all the rest, I've just had enough. Does that sound callous? I do love him, but I need to be more to somebody than a housekeeper and secretary!
Nope, not callous. Not selfish either. It takes 2 to make a marriage work. It takes 2 to be a couple. It takes work on both sides to have a relationship.
Originally Posted by
painthorse60 Has anyone else on here ever suffered through the hard parts and then just reached their limit? It doesn't really make sense to me because the years of active addiction were really hard and I put up with an awful lot just becasue I really do love him. This name calling and breaking things in a rage is mild compared to past behaviors, but I've just reached a point in my life where I can't take anymore. I just want peace!
You have right to peace! Do you go to AlAnon or individual therap? Therapy did wonders for me.