Originally Posted by
bluejupiter 
I'm a bit worried about how he will react.
For me, worrying about his reaction would be reason enough all on its own to step back or break it off. Feeling fear in a relationship is jsut not healthy and not somewhere I want to be.
Originally Posted by
bluejupiter he just denies any issues on his part - its all me. I'm selfish, I make hasty decisions, I don't think things through, and because my mom helps me out now and then, I 'take handouts'.
That all sounds like manipulation and quacking from an alcoholic to me.
Originally Posted by
bluejupiter trying to reason with an irrational and unreasonable man is pointless
Absolutley! And its not likely to improve with time or the added stresses to a relationship that a child inevitably brings even under the best of circumstances.
Originally Posted by
bluejupiter I just dont want to deal with this.
You don't have to if you don't want to.