I can relate to the anger!! I try and put it to good use. Sometimes feels like its the only thing that can keep me going - it helps motivate me. I have a lot of work to do on our house before we can sell it - its amazing how quickly you can go when you're mad!
It also helps me to stop falling for the sweet talk/quacking - when I remember its there! One thing I don't do it express it to my AH. Oh, he'll hear about it if he crosses the line but I don't rage at him - not outwardly since he'll just use it as an excuse to go drinking.
I'd like to get to the serenity stage but I have a long way to go yet!