Similar situation here. My Mom is the queen of clean.....and I'm not. I would consider myself "normal" when it comes to clean. My home is comfortably lived in. But my mother is unbelievably clean. BUT.....I don't make any special efforts when my mother comes over. She can either love me the way I am or not. Her choice. Fortunately, she loves me just the way I am. (It doesn't stop her from commenting periodically but I just giggle and that makes her giggle.)
I hope you feel better soon. They say that stress can make you sick. Well, you're lucky at this point that you aren't hospitalized with the stress you've been dealing with! But, as always, you have a way of throwing in some humor in your posts! FEEL BETTER SOON!!!!!!
gentle hugs