My mum is just the same. She didn't visit me for two years because she said my home wasn't clean and tidy! I call her Monica (as in Friends tv show) because she is so compulsive. I swaer it is either codependancy related or OCD!
Do what you can and don't fret! You are not superwoman!
By the by, is that pic you? You are beautiful! I don't see any of the things you have talked about in past posts.
Lily xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx