(((Canard)))
Welcome.
IMO, it doesn't sound like recreational use only. And yes, they do all say the things your husband is saying to you. There seems to be a script that gets handed out, lol!
Read the stickies at the top of the forum and read through some of the other posts, I think you will get a lot of them, others will be along shortly.
Good for you for seeking out the Naranon meeting. In the meantime, you know what you know - don't let him convince you any different!