I am married to a "normie" too. When I first got sober I would let him go to meetings with me. I don't anymore. Well, I will let him come when I get my chip, that's about it. He does not have an alcohol or drug problem so there really isn't any reason he needs to be there. If he wants to he can go to Alanon. That's what it's for.
He can be judgemental. I cannot. That kind of thinking will KILL me.
Try to let it go. They really don't get it.
Try to find some gratitude that he is supporting your recovery!