Originally Posted by NYC_Chick

Unfortunately there is really nothing you can do to help her. Any amount of help you offer will be turned away unless she wants to do something about it. It sounds like she is in end-stage alcoholism.

If everyone has told her that he drinking is killing her, then she is no doubt aware of it. I would not enable her in any way. It is clearly ripping your life apart, so the best you can do for yourself is decide what you are willing to accept from her. If she decides to drink herself to death there is nothing you can do about it.

I know it's hard to let go. I have my own issues sticking to my boundaries, but it will be easier to accept her choices if you take care of yourself.